tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8988392.post5233130773168186281..comments2023-08-25T01:48:07.020-06:00Comments on BeStoked: Is He/She the One?Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06483822088793905847noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8988392.post-18438168330412189612011-12-22T18:08:34.689-06:002011-12-22T18:08:34.689-06:00I used to think the same thing. How did you just k...I used to think the same thing. How did you just know? Give me a real answer! Then I met my husband, and I honestly... just knew. There was a great peace to the whole situation. I remember praying, asking God to show me anything to indicate I should not marry this guy, and I heard nothing. Anytime I was with him, I felt safe and at peace.Jamie Kocurhttp://rebootingworship.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8988392.post-76500780495528678762011-12-03T08:18:31.799-06:002011-12-03T08:18:31.799-06:00Thanks Laura! Please don't feel the need to ap...Thanks Laura! Please don't feel the need to apologize, I _love_ comments on older posts because I take that to mean the content is still relent and worth discussing. That's super encouraging to me!<br /><br />It's definitely a commitment, but I do remember being confused about "who" to commit to. :)Luke Stokeshttp://bestoked.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8988392.post-32400519144999597122011-12-02T16:29:55.036-06:002011-12-02T16:29:55.036-06:00totally agreed.totally agreed.Laura McClellanhttp://lauramcclellan.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8988392.post-80083842236206393922011-12-02T16:29:15.665-06:002011-12-02T16:29:15.665-06:00I always got frustrated with that answer too! Sinc...I always got frustrated with that answer too! Since my husband is the only guy I ever dated, I really struggled with the, "but how do I KNOW??" thing. Through some messages at the young adult ministry we went to, I realized it wasn't so much of a feeling or even "just knowing" to me...but more of a choice and a commitment. Not some mystical thing you couldn't track down, y'know? Also apologies for commenting on an old post, but of course I'm just looking around on your blog from your first link!Laura McClellanhttp://lauramcclellan.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8988392.post-64618587918735587062011-11-26T14:04:14.108-06:002011-11-26T14:04:14.108-06:00Thanks Tim! Always brings me a big smile when a bl...Thanks Tim! Always brings me a big smile when a blot post gets discovered. :)<br /><br />You're so right. Getting too wrapped up in "the one" mentality can be really counter productive. It's an important decision for sure, but what matters most is what happens after that decision and what we do daily to build up our marriages.<br /><br />Thanks for sharing. The one is the person who says "I do." Simple. I like it.Luke Stokeshttp://bestoked.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8988392.post-77352085084141928232011-11-26T11:13:13.253-06:002011-11-26T11:13:13.253-06:00[Happily stumbled across this blog via twitter, so...[Happily stumbled across this blog via twitter, so that explains the comment on a month old post.] When I was single, others would talk about this, and my thought was they were too concerned aboutTim Lytlehttp://twitter.com/tjlytlenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8988392.post-2599913303782121422011-10-28T07:59:13.971-06:002011-10-28T07:59:13.971-06:00Thanks for commenting, Jamie! It's funny how o...Thanks for commenting, Jamie! It's funny how often we get confused and frustrated when God's plan often is very simple and peaceful.Luke Stokeshttp://bestoked.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8988392.post-36719636889101538402011-10-26T18:36:50.339-06:002011-10-26T18:36:50.339-06:00I used to think the same thing. How did you just k...I used to think the same thing. How did you just know? Give me a real answer! Then I met my husband, and I honestly... just knew. There was a great peace to the whole situation. I remember praying, asking God to show me anything to indicate I should not marry this guy, and I heard nothing. Anytime I was with him, I felt safe and at peace.Jamie Kocurhttp://rebootingworship.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8988392.post-5356647364597016722011-10-24T14:27:56.638-06:002011-10-24T14:27:56.638-06:00Well said. I'm often surprised how quickly we ...Well said. I'm often surprised how quickly we "get in the way" of things God has already taken care of. The illusion of control gets me often.Luke Stokeshttp://bestoked.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8988392.post-8025940088052547012011-10-23T22:33:29.196-06:002011-10-23T22:33:29.196-06:00When I stopped looking for "the one" and...When I stopped looking for "the one" and let God do the searching I fell in love with Colleen. The more we got to know each other, the more I know that she was the one God brought to me. <br /><br />It's funny how sometimes we just have to stop trying to do things on our own and let God handle it.Brian Reesehttp://twitter.com/breese524noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8988392.post-59277666267236141122011-10-23T12:21:39.435-06:002011-10-23T12:21:39.435-06:00"love, friendship, partnership, compatibility..."love, friendship, partnership, compatibility, shared goals, shared interests" - I love that list, Joel. Great stuff, thanks for sharing.Luke Stokeshttp://bestoked.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8988392.post-40556320356077557072011-10-23T11:05:06.360-06:002011-10-23T11:05:06.360-06:00Besides loving one another, MaryBeth and I were ju...Besides loving one another, MaryBeth and I were just so compatible. Plus, she's such an outstanding, pure person who betters me. The process had little to do with overwhelming emotions and more to do with foundational elements of love, friendship, partnership, compatibility, shared goals, shared interests. This is the stuff that I've learned leads to lasting marriages. We've continued to grow upon these.Joel Fortnerhttp://www.joelfortner.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8988392.post-61914584014787164702011-10-22T12:50:01.223-06:002011-10-22T12:50:01.223-06:00It's funny how difficult we make things at tim...It's funny how difficult we make things at times. It's true though, when we let go and follow His plan, things work out as they should. I definitely agree about being friends. I don't know how people can really get to know someone through the "dating" process.<br /><br />Corinne and I recently took the DISC profile and we're exact opposites which we both think is hilarious. I'm a high D/I (99 out of 100) and she's a high C/S (also 99 out of 100). We balance each other well.Luke Stokeshttp://bestoked.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8988392.post-6460277043323911992011-10-22T10:09:24.514-06:002011-10-22T10:09:24.514-06:00In my experience; God's will comes easy. Usual...In my experience; God's will comes easy. Usually things that I have to force are my will and end in regret. Asking Karrie to marry me was easy. We started were friends first. We could be real around each other. We have taken several personality assessments and they are say we were tailor made for each other. I cannot see myself with anyone else. God knew.Luke Stokeshttp://www.facebook.com/lukejosephstokesnoreply@blogger.com